Psychology: Who dont maintain many close friends, learned independence too early

by gurjeeton 3/1/2026, 10:21 PMwith 29 comments

by david-gpuon 3/1/2026, 10:40 PM

Yeah, that sounds very familiar. A deadbeat dad that was overly controlling when he was present. A mom that was trying to juggle her career, housework and two kids. This meant lots of time spent alone. Can't learn now to depend on people when there is nobody around. Bullying at school does not help, either. Hyper independence is a predictable outcome.

by ralferooon 3/1/2026, 10:29 PM

The butchered title makes close to zero sense. The original title "Psychology says people who don’t maintain many close friends often learned independence too early" does.

by tim-tdayon 3/2/2026, 12:17 AM

Weird. Half a dozen comments calling this LLM generated. Doesn’t strike me as that. Maybe English as a second language or someone trying to dumb down their language. Maybe I’m out of touch.

The thing that bothers me is repeated references to “psychologists say” but no reference to peer reviewed science, just other articles on the same site.

by vibe_that_workson 3/1/2026, 10:53 PM

Whole-heartedly dislike the article. Again a form of being atypical neurologically is framed as a pathology. "You are insufficiently clingy to be a good human, and the reason is your childhood trauma".

by johnnyApplePRNGon 3/1/2026, 10:38 PM

A common definition of independent is "not depending on another for livelihood or subsistence."

No human should ever be "independent".

We are social animals first and foremost. We depend on each other by definition.

by mzajcon 3/1/2026, 10:39 PM

Does psychology say that, or does the floating point matrix that wrote this article?

by pcthrowawayon 3/1/2026, 11:11 PM

What about people who don't maintain many close friends and still haven't learned independence?

by rossanton 3/1/2026, 10:31 PM

That LLM-style tone is exhausting.

by jibalon 3/1/2026, 11:09 PM

"too" seems pointlessly judgmental. My early independence (a result of being the second child of parents without a lot of love to give) contributed to who I am, and I don't think I'm an inferior specimen.

by popalchemiston 3/1/2026, 10:35 PM

I feel pain reading these haphazardly strung together words. Literally hate this article even if the insight is worthwhile.

by gitmagicon 3/1/2026, 10:53 PM

Just sounds like an actual grownup to me.

by Karumaon 3/1/2026, 10:54 PM

Please, HN mods, no more ChatGPT articles...

I'd ask any LLM myself if I cared to read their empty words.

by etyhhgfffon 3/1/2026, 10:58 PM

Just another AI slop article on HN. Hope is gets flagged fast. I mean the author could at least try to make it a bit less LLMish.